Please note that because I paraphrase some public record, his name is included. Do not incite violence, hurt him, or harass him in any way. By doing this you will actually hurt ME because I could be held responsible (which is the only reason I care).
Feel free to repost this statement as long as you do so in it's entirety to your blogs, etc.
Most recent public statement:
When I made this video (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ekr_msIte_o) I had not pressed charges. Less than two months after making this video, upon great thought and with the encouragement of a lawyer viewer of mine at the time, I made the choice to file a police report.
After taking my report, they set it up so I would call him and talk to him about the night he raped me and they (the police) would tape it. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. I have the conversation on audio and might one day post on here on another site. Upon hanging up the detectives simply said, 'this guy is going to prison'.
The detectives along with an Assistant District Attorney took the case to a grand jury (at least in Tennessee any felony charges have to pass a grand jury to ensure there is enough evidence to warrant a trial). The grand jury indicted one Rajiv Gomer residing at the time in the DC area and they issued an arrest warrant. Because he lived in another state and I was aware of a date he was coming back into Tennessee, instead of messing with extradition issues, they waited for that time to arrest him. He was arrested, made no statement to the police and spent about 24 hours in jail before posting approximately 10k in bail.
Then my case was assigned to Boyd Patterson of the Hamilton County DA's office. He is an amazing man, an incredible attorney, and has inspired me and given me great hope in mankind's ability to be good and kind and fair and just (etc).
In some comments I have made on this video I refer to 'settling out of court'. What this simply means is 'agreeing to a plea bargain instead of taking it to a trial'. It is the Hamilton County's policy that victims must approve a plea bargain before they will grant one.
I went back and forth and back and forth about whether to go the plea bargain route, or whether to put myself through a trial.
I had finally decided to take it to trial. We had the confession on tape and witnesses at the scene of the rape who were willing to testify. A date was about to be set for the trial when, what has always felt suspicious to me, the Assistant District Attorney on my case was suddenly promoted outside the district (or something like that) and removed from my case.
It was then the main District Attorney's decision on what to do. They decided that with their case load and not absolutely knowing they could get a guilty verdict from the jury, they dropped charges in a manner in which they could reinstate those charges if further evidence arrises before the statute of limitations runs out. At the time that this was entered into the court record, they stated that they believed facebook.com/rajiv.gomer to be guilty of the crime but felt they lacked enough evidence to be assured of a guilty verdict (I feel this is mostly due to the time I waited to report it, so for those out there, please make a report right away. You can always choose not to go forward with legal proceedings, but at least it gives you the option).
I have copies of all of the public records that I plan to publish when I feel I am ready to do so, including the audio taped confession the police obtained along with me.
He is currently a free man and I can only ask that you take caution. I'm limited in what I can say about him to prevent any 'defamation' suit filed against me, that is why I will simply publish online what is already public record.
I did all I could to prevent this from happening to another girl. In this case, the justice system, in my opinion, simply failed. This should have gone to a trial and a jury should have had the right to decide whether he was guilty, which I am fairly confident (you can never be positive with a jury) they would have.
I do NOT discourage victims from filing reports and I hope my case doesn't discourage you from doing so. However, having gone through this, I understand the saying that the legal proceedings are a 'second rape'. And so I understand those who cannot take any further trauma and choose not to go through the legal process and I also understand those who simply don't trust the legal system. While it's the best we've got, it's very poor.
The exception to that is that I maintain that Boyd Patterson was and is an exceptional criminal prosecutor. He was a counselor before he got his law degree. He helped me navigate the craziness of the process and I trusted him with my life. He was worthy of that.
For now, that is all I have to say. I have waited until the pain diminished and I felt healthy enough and ready enough to talk about this. I won't answer any questions right now, but at some point in the future I will be willing to. Thank you for your understanding.